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Sexual Abuse
Gayle Rogers, Ph.D., ministers in conferences both nationally and
internationally with a strong prophetic anointing. She is founder and president
of L.I.F.E. Outreach Ministries International, an apostolic prophetic
deliverance ministry with a vision to see God's people completely out of
bondage.
She teaches, trains, equips and disciples; helping to
establish purpose in lives of people; imparting insight, wisdom and revelation
knowledge and developing leaders to take the gospel throughout the nations.
Gayle and her husband have three daughters and six
grandchildren.
OVERCOMING SEXUAL TRAUMA
"Binding the Strongman"
by Gayle Rogers Ph. D.
Through His delivering power God has given each of us the
authority to be free from bondage. As we continue to live our lives
through past experiences and hurts, we deny ourselves that authority. Our
Heavenly Father wills us to be free, and yet many times we choose to stay in
bondage. When we continue to remain in pain, we give ourselves the right
to remain in partnership with the devil, allowing the ravages of sin to take
hold and control our mind.
The first Overcoming Sexual Trauma (OST) article discussed 7
keys to overcoming the aftereffects of sexual abuse, which cause us to sin.
It is important to use those 7 keys on a daily basis for your freedom as well as
others you minister to. In other words, we must fight the good fight of
faith by warring against the enemy, not allowing him to take control over our
destiny. Mostly before we become conscious of what the enemy is doing, he
has already found an open portal. We must first bind the strong man before
he gets in.
Matthew 12:29 says, Or how can one enter a strong man’s house
and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man? And then he
will plunder his house. In other words, we should always operate on the
offense, not defense. The Christ within us is greater than he that is in
the world. We should stop just quoting Scripture, but learn how to live by
the promises of God and know that His Word is like a “two-edged sword.” You
can’t get any greater than a two-edged sword.
Not only should you no longer accept the words you have been
telling yourself all your life -- “this is just the way I am,” but you must take
the reigns of your life and allow God to help you become the woman or man of God
He meant you to be. Say out loud, “I am the beloved child of the Most High
God.”
My first sexual encounter was at the tender age of 5. I
no longer ponder how I knew about sex at that age since I never saw anyone in
the act. I now know it had to be a sexual spirit assigned to me from
birth. I’m sure that sounds quite ludicrous to many of you. However,
think about this for a moment. How would a 5-year-old know anything about
sexual intercourse and initiate it with a 4-year-old never exposed to a sexual
act before? It is critical we realize we’re in spiritual warfare from our
entrance into this world. Because Satan is the “god of this world,” he is
the strong man who divides our household. My parents were alcoholics and
separated when I was 5-years-old. Before they separated, they drank
incessantly and were battling in hand-to-hand combat every week. But I
never saw them having sex, nor do I remember ever hearing the sounds. Our
house was a house divided. Luke 11:17 says, Every kingdom divided against
itself is brought to desolation, and a house divided against a house falls.
Consequently, because of the division in the household, Satan entered legally.
Verse 23 says, He who is not with Me is against Me, and he who does not gather
with Me scatters. My father or mother did not guard our household,
therefore the strong man walked right in.
From time to time as I related the story of my sexual
encounters at such an early age, many people told me I couldn’t possibly have
known what I was doing, and it was a “phase” all children go through.
Maybe I did not know what I was doing, but two things I did know. It was
wrong, and it felt good. Sometime during those adolescent years, I began
to engage in masturbation. I did not consciously know it was masturbation,
and, also, I do not recall anyone teaching me how to do it either. Somehow
it was a natural thing to do. What I do recall is that I was very, very
ashamed when it was over. And, I never told a single person what I was
doing until well into adulthood. By the time I confided in someone else,
they were doing it as well. We did not question whether it was right or
wrong; we just did it. As I look back, I see each one of us suffered from
poor self-images as well as shame and rejection. These are just a few of
the ways we open doors giving Satan more and more reign over our lives.
Masturbation is one of the most traumatizing behaviors in
which we can engage because we’re actually making love to a spirit, which we now
understand was not a “God spirit.” As stated in the last article, from the
moment we accept Christ as our personal Savior, He offers us deliverance and the
opportunity to experience wholeness. Do not continue to deny that anything
is wrong. We use our own methods to becoming whole--careers,
relationships, education, etc. Yet, in actuality we live broken and
fragmented lives. Throughout the New Testament Jesus constantly asks if we
want to be made whole. If God created us to walk in divine favor and
wholeness, why do we choose anything less? From this point forward, I
chose wholeness. Choose to be forever free and whole. Give Jesus
every hurt, every disappointment. Once you have surrendered all to God do
not concern yourself with past issues.
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