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Sexual Abuse

Gayle Rogers, Ph.D., ministers in conferences both nationally and internationally with a strong prophetic anointing.  She is founder and president of L.I.F.E.  Outreach Ministries International, an apostolic prophetic deliverance ministry with a vision to see God's people completely out of bondage. 

She teaches, trains, equips and disciples; helping to establish purpose in lives of people; imparting insight, wisdom and revelation knowledge and developing leaders to take the gospel throughout the nations.

Gayle and her husband have three daughters and six grandchildren.

 
OVERCOMING SEXUAL TRAUMA
"Binding the Strongman"

 by Gayle Rogers Ph. D.

Through His delivering power God has given each of us the authority to be free from bondage.  As we continue to live our lives through past experiences and hurts, we deny ourselves that authority.  Our Heavenly Father wills us to be free, and yet many times we choose to stay in bondage.  When we continue to remain in pain, we give ourselves the right to remain in partnership with the devil, allowing the ravages of sin to take hold and control our mind. 

The first Overcoming Sexual Trauma (OST) article discussed 7 keys to overcoming the aftereffects of sexual abuse, which cause us to sin.  It is important to use those 7 keys on a daily basis for your freedom as well as others you minister to.  In other words, we must fight the good fight of faith by warring against the enemy, not allowing him to take control over our destiny.  Mostly before we become conscious of what the enemy is doing, he has already found an open portal.  We must first bind the strong man before he gets in.

Matthew 12:29 says, Or how can one enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man?  And then he will plunder his house.  In other words, we should always operate on the offense, not defense.  The Christ within us is greater than he that is in the world.  We should stop just quoting Scripture, but learn how to live by the promises of God and know that His Word is like a “two-edged sword.” You can’t get any greater than a two-edged sword.

Not only should you no longer accept the words you have been telling yourself all your life -- “this is just the way I am,” but you must take the reigns of your life and allow God to help you become the woman or man of God He meant you to be.  Say out loud, “I am the beloved child of the Most High God.”

My first sexual encounter was at the tender age of 5.  I no longer ponder how I knew about sex at that age since I never saw anyone in the act.  I now know it had to be a sexual spirit assigned to me from birth.  I’m sure that sounds quite ludicrous to many of you.  However, think about this for a moment.  How would a 5-year-old know anything about sexual intercourse and initiate it with a 4-year-old never exposed to a sexual act before?  It is critical we realize we’re in spiritual warfare from our entrance into this world.  Because Satan is the “god of this world,” he is the strong man who divides our household.  My parents were alcoholics and separated when I was 5-years-old.  Before they separated, they drank incessantly and were battling in hand-to-hand combat every week.  But I never saw them having sex, nor do I remember ever hearing the sounds.  Our house was a house divided.  Luke 11:17 says, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and a house divided against a house falls.  Consequently, because of the division in the household, Satan entered legally.  Verse 23 says, He who is not with Me is against Me, and he who does not gather with Me scatters.  My father or mother did not guard our household, therefore the strong man walked right in. 

From time to time as I related the story of my sexual encounters at such an early age, many people told me I couldn’t possibly have known what I was doing, and it was a “phase” all children go through.  Maybe I did not know what I was doing, but two things I did know.  It was wrong, and it felt good.  Sometime during those adolescent years, I began to engage in masturbation.  I did not consciously know it was masturbation, and, also, I do not recall anyone teaching me how to do it either.  Somehow it was a natural thing to do.  What I do recall is that I was very, very ashamed when it was over.  And, I never told a single person what I was doing until well into adulthood.  By the time I confided in someone else, they were doing it as well.  We did not question whether it was right or wrong; we just did it.  As I look back, I see each one of us suffered from poor self-images as well as shame and rejection.  These are just a few of the ways we open doors giving Satan more and more reign over our lives.

Masturbation is one of the most traumatizing behaviors in which we can engage because we’re actually making love to a spirit, which we now understand was not a “God spirit.” As stated in the last article, from the moment we accept Christ as our personal Savior, He offers us deliverance and the opportunity to experience wholeness.  Do not continue to deny that anything is wrong.  We use our own methods to becoming whole--careers, relationships, education, etc.  Yet, in actuality we live broken and fragmented lives.  Throughout the New Testament Jesus constantly asks if we want to be made whole.  If God created us to walk in divine favor and wholeness, why do we choose anything less?  From this point forward, I chose wholeness.  Choose to be forever free and whole.  Give Jesus every hurt, every disappointment.  Once you have surrendered all to God do not concern yourself with past issues. 

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