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Sexual Abuse

Gayle Rogers, Ph.D., ministers in conferences both nationally and internationally with a strong prophetic anointing.  She is founder and president of L.I.F.E.  Outreach Ministries International, an apostolic prophetic deliverance ministry with a vision to see God's people completely out of bondage. 

She teaches, trains, equips and disciples; helping to establish purpose in lives of people; imparting insight, wisdom and revelation knowledge and developing leaders to take the gospel throughout the nations.

Gayle and her husband have three daughters and six grandchildren.

 

OVERCOMING SEXUAL TRAUMA
Do you want to be free? 

by Gayle Rogers Ph. D.

This article is the first of three on understanding how to overcome issues arising from sexual trauma.  In this first one, you will find seven keys to becoming free from the aftereffects of sexual trauma.  First, here is a Biblical definition of freedom.  One of the Hebrew words for free is hopsiy meaning freedom from slavery or to have oppression removed.  Isaiah 58:6 says, “Is not this the fast that I have chosen? To loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke?”

The first key to being free is that you must recognize and acknowledge a need for freedom from trauma issues arising out of past sexual molestation and/or rape.  Your resolve within yourself to be free once and for all must be stronger than any other desire, except of course, your relationship with Christ and desire to please Him.  For example, if you have operated in a spirit of offense, generally resulting from rejection, your desire to overcome that spirit must far outweigh your feelings of rejection.  In all the years I felt rejection and self-worthlessness, it never occurred to me there was a root cause of that rejection which is discussed later in this article.  I often wondered, “Why do I always feel left out or overlooked?”  “Why doesn’t anybody ever listen to what I have to say?”  I gradually became aware of the enemy’s strategies.  If he could keep me in a pit of sorrow, shame and humiliation, I would never reach my God-given potential to fulfill the purposes and destiny He had set in motion even before my birth.

Developing a greater understanding of spiritual warfare is the second key to being free. Recognizing the battle raging within initiated by Satan brings you into a greater revelation of what the fight is all about. I found it was nothing personal against me but that I am chosen by the Father to build His Kingdom upon the earth.  Simply put, the enemy hates God.  So you must know when the enemy is attacking your mind because that is where the battle is taking place.  It is important to know whose voice you’re hearing--the Voice of God or Satan.  If you’re continually hearing phrases like “You’ll never get anywhere in life,” “you’ll always be in debt,” “nobody really cares about you,” or similar negative thoughts running through your mind, you must know that is not the voice of your Father.  As long as you believe the lies of the enemy, you cannot fight an effective battle.

The third key toward fighting the battle for freedom is to immediately take action against negative thoughts by speaking the Word of God aloud over your life concerning your destiny.  Repeat Scriptures that outline your inheritance in the Kingdom and tell the enemy he has no power over you or your destiny.  The Bible says faith comes by hearing the Word.  You must allow your mind to hear the Word of your Father as you speak it aloud.  Your greatest fan is Father Himself.  Do not look to people to validate you; they are not qualified.  Only Christ has died for you.  As the Word gets down in your spirit-man, revelation and the wisdom begins to flow helping you understand the bondage you’re in and the need for change.  Change means becoming aware of something not right for you and doing something about it.  One area requiring change may be forgiveness, the fourth key to being free.  Unforgiveness causes you to be turned over to the tormentors (see Matthew 18: 32-35).  Forgiveness not only helps to develop your character, but it also develops a closer personal relationship between you and Christ.  Although I developed a close walk with Christ early in my conversion, as the issues of sexual trauma began to surface, I had to deal with each issue separately.  Only then, did I begin to understand a “true” relationship because I understood His true love for me.  It’s important for us to identify those areas that keep us in bondage.  Sometimes we must go back into the past to get the future right.  Yes, I know the Apostle Paul tells us we must forget about those things in the past and press towards the mark of the prize of the high calling.  However, some things must be dealt with before we can “press” or reach that “high calling,” like sins passed down through ancestral bloodlines.  If your father or someone in your family committed a sexual sin against you, it is probable that spirit of rejection, abuse, lust and/or perversion was passed down to him.  Remember, sexual sin is a sin against the body which is transferable and permeates the very core of our being.

Let me explain.  We recognize inherited or genetic illnesses such as cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol because we constantly say, “Oh my mother had that so I know where it came from.” We give complete family medical history at the doctor’s office.  If we can “inherit” those diseases genetically, doesn’t it stand to reason we can just as easily inherit ancestral character traits or iniquities such as perversion, addictions, or abuse?  Sexual molestation is sometimes an addiction, but always it is perversion and abuse.  It is imperative we deal with these issues head on to prevent our children from suffering the same pain and shame many of us have suffered. 

The fifth key to gaining freedom is identifying and acknowledging ancestral iniquities.  Am I saying because your father, grandfather, brother, or uncle molested you, that you will automatically become a child molester?  Not necessarily.  What I am saying is other circumstances or character traits are involved which caused him or her to molest you.  Those traits you must investigate.  Why were they angry enough to molest an eight- year-old?  What happened that caused them to disregard, disrespect, and totally violate your five-year-old body?  When we investigate generational character traits of sexual offenders according to David Foster in Sexual healing - God's plan for the sanctification of broken lives, ninety-seven percent of all sex addicts have been emotionally abused as children and some eighty-one percent have been sexually abused.  Foster says their sickness manifests itself in an equally diverse number of ways, including prostitution, multiple affairs, pornography, compulsive masturbation, incest, child sexual abuse, homosexuality, rape, and the list goes on and on.  When you take a closer look, you’ll discover the spirits which linger are ashes that keep smoldering deep down in your soul--your subconscious mind.  As a result, because of this violation, a healing must take place in order to become completely whole.  The woman with the issue of blood in Matthew 9:21, said, “If I may touch His garment, I shall be whole.” The NIV translates “whole” as healed.  The Greek word, sozo, means safe, delivered, to save, make whole, preserve from danger, loss, or destruction.  In John 5:6, Jesus asked the man lying by the pool of Bethesda, “Do you want to get well?”  KJV translates it as, “wilt thou be made whole?”  The word means sound, healthy, whole, in health.  These two scriptures tell us one important truth, which is the sixth key: you must also resolve to be completely whole, safe and preserved from danger.  This complete wholeness only comes from knowing the heart of the Father through spending quality time in His presence and understanding His love for you.  Anger, unforgiveness, self-worthlessness, bitterness, rejection, offense, depression, and jealousy are all thoughts initiated by the devil and will not allow you to be made whole.  Sexual abuse is a sin committed against the body, the mind and the soul.  Every aftereffect (lingering residue) must be purged from your soul—your mind, will and emotions—and your body.

The seventh and final key according to Ephesians 6:12, is: “we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Having quoted that scripture, let us forgive (the fourth key) those who violated our bodies, recognizing the stronghold the enemy has or once had over them, and pray for their deliverance (if they’re still alive).  It appears they too are in bondage.  Then, let us “press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:14).

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